Most people can relate to that burning desire for an epiphany. To have all of those inner questions answered in a single shot. When the times finally comes and that realization comes to light, the glaring truth proves more devastating than the the questions which left us so frustrated and torn inside.
Holding onto the past prevents each and every human being alive from reaching their true potential and reaching their own sense of enlightenment. The intention is not to overhwelm the soul with Buddhist interpretations because that is not the case. However, when we are left with burning questions begging for a answer we hope to be rescued from the burden that weighs so heavily on our shoulders.
In writing this revelation, the point is not to make false claims to steer readers towards a lie but rather to share a personal revelation that has come into light. Holding onto memories from years that have gone and passed kept me from finding the peace of mind needed for me to maintain the quest to driving ahead and ignore the temptation to punch it back in reverse.
Lovers of the past cannot stake their claim in the future if we intend to keep ourselves from making past mistakes. How does one move forward when they keep a tight grip on the memories that are just that and in the past. Living in the present is hard,especially if the present does not maintain that fonder frame of mind and times, when the difficulties did not outweigh the realized potential. A healthy future awaits those who do not hold onto that which has passed and moved on.
Without time machines no one can change the past or relive the moment with the exception of in their own mind. The problem is the past should not and is not meant to be altered in any which way because things happen and we have to use those experiences to grow and to move on. Reflecting on the past can help everyone prevent a perpetual chain of the same mistakes. Letting go does not mean we should forget or hold ill will to those who possessed the very beat of our heart with their smile, touch or their simple presence.Rather, remember the positive and use it as a guide to relive the experiences but with someone and something new.
It is easy to fall into the trap of dating or reconnecting with out ex- lovers but it is a trap with a dangerous pitfall. There's no limit to the damage we can inflict on ourselves if we choose to walk such a dangerous line. If you were mistreated or mistreated another, the wounds do not heal so easily and the potential for tearing open the scars and having our hearts bleed out is so great. Why risk disaster? The answer lies in the vulnerbility being alone. But if we truly accepted the terms of being alone until that time comes, then happiness will follow. Attachment can be great when the match has been made but attachment to the wrong person can easily backfire against all the hopes and desires of the heart.
Patience is a virtue or so it is said. I tend to agree though it is a virtue that takes continual effort to maintain. As a victim of spending years of holding onto memories and times that were more pleasant than the current state of existence, I found myself overwhelmed by circumstances out of my control. Moving on never seemed like a possible option. The determination to force another remake of the original left me paralyzed from moving forward. The sorrow tightly wound itself against my heart and created a pain that seemed to be in control. Analyzing and reflecting I realized how the past had consumed me with feelings of guilt and remorse for being a person I had long worked to change and improve.
The guilt and shame of past mistakes should never block the improvements made to repair those traits or missteps we took along the way. Let it go and forget if it means healing. Staying close to an ex wife or girlfriend/boyfriend only keeps us living in the past. I suffered and drained myself over the past mistakes I made but when I realized that it was a different time and place I was able to begin the healing process. Never sure what awaits me each and ever new day, I look forward to the opportunities and the potential for more that awaits. I have finally let go and learned to not be consumed by attachment to others but rather I learned a healthy form of detachment that helps me keep the candle of hope burning.
Never again will the traps of the past take hold. Uncertainty never poisons the soul like guilt and I'd rather exercise patience than be torn apart by the waiting the game. Like Tom Petty said, "the waiting is the hardest part", but learning to accept it and use it as a tool to move forward is the goal. Goodbye to the days of yesterday and embrace the potential for something more.
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